Decisions, Decisions

I’m having a bit of a crisis of indecision. While I have never been an incredibly decisive person, my mind seems to be particularly locked up in this situation. I need input. Perhaps the 5 of you that read regularly could weigh in? Winking smile

Here’s the deal:

I can’t decide where to live.

I mentioned on Friday that I was on the hunt for a new place here in Richmond. I went to 5 different places, found one townhouse that I really liked, but still wasn’t sure about the location or price of that place.

Cute, though. Right?


Still not sold on the suburban location, I decided to drive down to the city to explore the Museum District and Carytown areas. I love the Southern charm of this area and the fact that you can walk to shopping and restaurants. Not to mention the fact that it’s pretty much a runner’s paradise. Sidewalks galore! Open-mouthed smile


Plus, the homes here have so much character. It’s a nice departure from the cookie-cutter apartments I’ve been living in. The only potential problem is parking, but I think I could probably make it work. I found a condo that looks good on paper, so I’ll see that tomorrow and maybe that will help my decision.


You knew there was going to be a “but” didn’t you???

But. I’m not sure I want to stay in Richmond. I really like living here, but at the same time I can’t help but think, “What is my life here?” I don’t have many friends here, no family, and no real ties except for the fact that I enjoy the weather. Probably not enough to build a life on. I also worry that I’ll be too isolated working from home. Even commuting into DC once a week, I’m concerned that I won’t have enough human contact if I stay here.

So that brings me to my next option: DC.

Well, it would be fantastic to move into a supercute row house in Georgetown!


But do you have any idea how much that would cost??? Even if I could afford it, I don’t think I could spend that kind of money on a rental. I want to be building equity if I’m going to fork out that kind of cheddah!

The question then becomes where do I look in the DC area? Of course, living in the city would be amazing, but unless I want to live in a closet, I’m pretty sure it’s not in the cards. My thinking is that I’ll drive up to DC this week and stay out in Arlington maybe? Then I can check out that area and see if I might be interested in living there.

There’s one other option sneaking around in the back of my head, though. You know how I’m working from home? As of right now, I’m supposed to be in DC once a week. As far as I can tell, I should be able to negotiate this. Last week when I was there, I didn’t have any meetings and there was no real purpose to my being physically present. I’m pretty sure that if I was there once a month for 3-4 days, I could definitely make it work. Which opens up the possibility of moving back to Michigan . . .

Home. Where I have people. Family. Friends. A network.


And yes, it is gray and cold from November to April, but it’s also home. As much as I enjoy living in Richmond, this does hold some appeal. I’m not sure this is an actual option—I’ll look into it more tomorrow—but it’s worth considering.

A lot to think about, right? I’m supposed to be out of my current apartment by mid-August, but I’m going to see if I can extend my lease until the end of the month just to buy myself a little more decision-making time. Normally, I like to have a deadline for making decisions, but for something like this, I really want to think it through.

As I deliberated this afternoon, I needed a little snack.


Those little bites of heaven are Trader Joe’s Roasted Gorgonzola Crackers. INsane! Now I just need some spinach artichoke dip to go on top!

I spent all my brain power thinking about major life choices today, so dinner was rather uninspired. I warmed up a Morningstar Farms Spicy Black Bean burger and served it on an English muffin with tons of ketchup.


Yes, I like a little burger with my ketchup. Winking smile

On the side, cherry tomatoes and fresh basil dressed with balsamic, Garlic Gold nuggets, and S&P.


I have had a wicked sweet tooth going on the last few days, so I’m off to search out some dessert. Stress makes me want chocolate!

Advice! Please! What should I do about my living situation? Weigh in, won’t you???


12 thoughts on “Decisions, Decisions

  1. Ahhh, I hate making decisions like this! I would say that if you could work it out so that you don’t have to be DC that often, then I would move back home. As cool as it is to live in fun places- friends and family really do make life so much better!

  2. Kira says:

    Such a hard decision…if you can make the 3-4 days a month thing work I would do Michigan. I think that would make you the happiest. Otherwise, outside of DC would be awesome! Praying for you…I’m sure it will be a tough choice!

  3. Jill says:

    Yes, those TJ crackers are amazing and you should see how I like fries with my ketchup.

    I would find out asap if Michigan really is an option so that you do not have to expend anymore energy on the possibility than necessary. If Michigan is not an option I would check out Arlington. It has seemed that you have not been too crazy about Richmond and that MI is really where your heart is!!!

    Best of luck!!!!!!

    • Great point. I’m going to look into it this morning. It’s funny because I do like Richmond, but I just don’t have a network here and that’s what makes it harder.

  4. nora says:

    Not to go against the other comments, because it seems you really love being home and being in Michigan. However my thought is that becuase you do have friends and family there you can always go back. you can go on long weekends and work from there but then try to make a life somewhere else. If you end up hating it move home, but the thing is you have to try when you’re young. Once you’re older we feel like our roots are too settled. I think moving to a bigger city is the way to try it out. DC is great, there are lots of neighborhoods and the running options are great. However if you’re worried about parking spots in Richmond, don’t move to GTown their parking situation is worse and no easy public transportation!

  5. Ok, I think with no real ties and working from home, you can move almost anywhere. You’re still young, no kids, so this is the time to DO IT. I love the DC area, BUT you seem so sad to leave your family and are often needing that friendship/companionship that I vote for going back to Michigan.

    Or of course, there is Orlando. You already have one friend there. 🙂

  6. Katie says:

    I’ll give you the advice I give anyone who is struggling with a decision – do what’s best for you. Follow your heart (or gut, or whatever is speaking to you). You know what’s best!

    I need to get away from MI soon. But I can see that you, having been away, miss it and would enjoy being around family. My thought is that if that’s what you want, go for it. And remember – it doesn’t have to be final. It can give you the time to decide how long you want to stay here, and then if you want to look into those other cities. It’s not permanent if you don’t want it to be. You can test it out for a while.

  7. Man, you’re a girl after my own heart. Reason #1: I have the hardest time making decisions. Reason #2: Family is where my heart is too. Even though my place of residence is in Long Island with Rob, home is where my mom is, which for me is in CT. I still call where I’m living “the house”. LOL. I think that if being close to your family is what would make you happiest you should give it a shot and ask. What’s the worst that could happen, right? One of the things I always kick myself for is not asking. I agree with Katie and think you should do what is best for you.

  8. It’s such a hard decision! Try to follow your heart Melissa. I loved FL weather & HATE the cold but I didn’t want to continue to only see my family 2-3’s a year. Life is too short & I was missing too much.

  9. bubblymel says:

    What a tough choice!!! If you have the option to move back home I say do it!! You’ll be much happier there and being surrounded by friends and family is always good!

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