How to Pimp Yourself Out for Friends

OK, not really. I’m not actually pimping myself out. But I did pick up a new friend this weekend! And a girl! 

Aren’t y’all proud???

But more on that in a quick sec, because I totally forgot to tell you that I guest posted for Corey over at Learning Patience on Friday! She is seriously one of the sweetest gals I know–she tells me I inspire her–and always has something positive to say. So scooch on over to her sparkling new blog and give ‘er a little love! She’s a sweetie pie! Plus, her birthday’s coming up, and a little birdie told me she’s having a kick ass giveaway later this week . . . #justsayin


OK, now to the pippin’! 😉

After a wild Friday night (Target run, dog walk, frozen pizza, wine), I needed a day of rest on Saturday, so I decided to mosey on up to my rooftop to sit in the sun and read my book. In case you forgot, here’s the awful view I’m dealing with:

Rooftop view

I hate it. Hurts my eyes. 

So up to the roof I went, sunblock and favorite summer read in tow. Side note: if you haven’t read this book, you need to. NOW. (<–yes, for all you 50 Shades fans, those are SHOUTY CAPITALS)

Fortunes rocks

Anyway, as soon as I got on the roof, I scoped out a spot for myself and noticed another chick flying solo, also sunning herself and reading. But she was doing it way better than me: she had wine.


Duh. Why didn’t I think of that. 

After being stupid and shy for a bit (and reading my book), I figured I might as well say hi. I mean, chick brought wine to the deck. She’s obviously cool. So I told her I liked her style, and we were instantly friends. Such good friends that we went to dinner that very night and then shopped and had another dinner yesterday! YAY for girlfriends! 

Although I’m still pretty sure I’m the oldest person in DC (swear to God, I haven’t met anyone over 25!), it’s still fun to have girl time, to talk about boys and clothes and neuroses with someone who just gets it. I was missing that, and I didn’t even know it! Not that I don’t have awesome friends in my work #BFFLs!


We even did karaoke the other night, which was absurdly fun! Can ya spot me???
So, yes, I am making friends and having fun. It’s funny because making friends is actually really hard for me. As I’ve mentioned numerous times, I suck at small talk (honestly, I don’t really care about the little things <–going to hell for that), and I’m not usually the best at putting myself out there. But being in a new place means you have to push your limits and get out of your comfort zone. I’m doing that all over the place right now with work and friendships and dating and fitness. And it’s not easy! In fact, it’s kind of hard for me. But at the end of the day, er probably several days . . . weeks . . . months . . . I know it will be worth it.
So even if you don’t normally go up to a random person to say hi or stay out until 2 AM on a work night or spend a ton doing dinner and drinks several nights in a row when it may or may not be in the budget . . . it IS worth it. And it IS necessary. And maybe I’m not exactly pimping myself out, but I am meeting people and continuing on this journey to figure out who I am, and I’m doing the best I can to just enjoy the ride. 
Have you made many friends as a grown up? How’d you do it?
Most of my new friends as of late are blog friends, and I’ve gotta say, they’re probably the closest friends I have.

16 thoughts on “How to Pimp Yourself Out for Friends

  1. Sounds like I need to get my hands on this book! Thanks for the rec. 🙂 I’m reading a book right now by an author I usually like, but the book is super booooring.

    As for friendlies, the best way I’ve made friends in SoCal is through Junior League. We started planning social events separately from “official” JL events, and that’s where people loosened up and we all got to know each other better. I also like the whole college alum group thing, but I haven’t made any close friends that way — just acquaintances. Junior League all the way 🙂

  2. I LOOOOOOOVE Fortune Rocks! Read that book on my honeymoon (wow – almost 10 years ago).

    Yay for making friends! (although, I find it really hard to believe that you have a hard time making friends!) Most of the friends I’ve made in the past 8 years have been through work (thankfully, I work with some really awesome people!) or at the gym/from running — oh, and of course from blogging. I admit, I really hate putting myself out there and will let my self-esteem get the best of me, but it’s almost always worth it.

  3. hhrunner says:

    any girl who is drinking wine and reading on the rooftop is definitely OK in my book. good call on making friends with her! and that’s pretty awesome that yall ended up clicking right away like that, i LOVE when that happens!! ❤

  4. Great job making a new friend! 🙂 I have a difficult time with it, as well. I’m so shy. I try to smile and look like I’m open to chatting, but my boyfriend says that because I’m so shy I don’t look as approachable as I might think. I’ve made a few friends at work (mainly people who are really outgoing and pull me into their circle. LOL) Otherwise, blogging has been a great way to meet like-minded people who turn into great friends!

  5. That’s so great that you started up the conversation with the stranger holding the wine. I find that hard also and usually wait for someone to speak to me! But a very confident friend once said to me, ‘What are you worried about? A stranger is just a friend you haven’t met yet’!

  6. thehinzadventures says:

    I love u girl! Thanks so much! We need a new pic of us ASAP! Blogging an amazing story tonight and I have u to thank!
    Xoxo Skype date this weekend?

  7. it’s awesome when other grownups admit that grownup things are hard. i don’t have the kind of job where i show up and hang with the same people every day, so i definitely have to make friends On Purpose- and it is a pain in the ass. and i’m not good at it. i love this post too on the subject, so apparently there are at least three people who have to put “make friends” on their to-do lists! 🙂 good on you for putting in the work!

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